Wisdom, Compassion, and Spirit: How I Integrate EMDR, IFS, and Clinical Hypnosis in Therapy

In my work with clients, I don’t use a one-size-fits-all approach. I draw from three powerful modalities — EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), IFS (Internal Family Systems), and Clinical Hypnosis — each offering something unique and deeply healing. Depending on the moment and the person, I weave these approaches together fluidly, always attuning to what is needed most in the room.

Therapy is not a straight line. People’s needs shift. Sometimes they need emotional stabilization, sometimes trauma processing, sometimes deeper integration or spiritual anchoring. My intention is always to meet them exactly where they are.


EMDR: Stirring the Memory Dust and Awakening Inner Wisdom

I often begin therapy with EMDR, especially when a client is ready to engage with their body and nervous system. EMDR introduces interoceptive awareness — the ability to notice and listen to the body’s internal cues — and helps gently open the memory system. I sometimes compare it to pounding an old rug: the dust rises.

And that dust rises even in rugs that seem clean. Even in clients who say “I’ve already processed this,” EMDR has a way of revealing hidden layers of trauma held in the body — not because the client failed to heal, but because the body stores everything until it feels safe enough to release it. There is no way to control this process, nor to predict it, frankly. The body leads, and we follow with curiosity and care.

Through EMDR, parts awaken and reveal themselves, often for the first time — sometimes with grief, sometimes with humor, often with raw, unfiltered emotion. It can be a lively and at times emotionally volatile process, because these parts and their protective agendas begin to come fully into the open. What was once unconscious becomes visible and nameable.

EMDR activates the brain’s left and right hemispheres through bilateral stimulation, bridging logic and emotion, language and image, past and present. This supports the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model — the brain’s natural ability to metabolize traumatic memory and build a more truthful, compassionate narrative.

EMDR is wisdom-focused. It’s active, like strength training — it mobilizes, strengthens, and clears. It helps us see more clearly and integrate truth from a deeper place.

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IFS: Befriending the Inner System and Returning to Self-Compassion

As EMDR opens access to vulnerable or protective parts, I begin to incorporate Internal Family Systems (IFS). IFS invites clients to meet these parts not as symptoms to be fixed, but as loyal protectors or wounded inner children who have been doing their best to keep us safe.

IFS helps clients build an internal sanctuary — a space where they can lead from their Self energy: calm, compassionate, curious. Over time, protectors soften, exiles feel seen, and deep inner reconciliation becomes possible.

The more comfortable we become with our inner system — noticing, welcoming, and understanding our parts — the easier it becomes for Self to situate itself as the leader. In IFS, Self is the unknowable, spiritual, wise energy that lives within each of us. It doesn’t force or control. It leads with clarity and kindness. I often describe it as the benevolent, responsible parent, or the good and kind driver of the big yellow school bus, making sure every child (or part) is safe, heard, and not behind the wheel when it’s not their job.

From this grounded, centered place, clients can begin to recognize parts that carry not just personal pain, but generational trauma, legacy burdens, and even parts that seem to hold information or energy from past lives, other dimensions, or ancestral lineages. These parts often carry wisdom, spiritual guidance, or old vows that are ready to be witnessed, updated, or released.

For spiritually oriented clients, IFS offers profound comfort and validation. It does not pathologize multiplicity — it honours it. We are not broken or fragmented. We are multifaceted, spiritual beings, capable of holding great complexity and beauty inside of us.

IFS is compassion-focused. It’s like a long, slow nature trek — filled with discovery, awe, and unexpected turns of insight. It softens judgment and builds a deep relationship with the parts of ourselves that have long been exiled or overburdened.

Together with EMDR, IFS forms a healing path that mirrors what is known in Buddhism as the two wings of the path to Enlightenment: wisdom and compassion. EMDR helps us see clearly — to awaken truth, memory, and understanding. IFS helps us stay kind — to lead with love, connection, and patience toward all that arises within. One wing lets us know. The other helps us stay.


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Clinical Hypnosis: Grounding the Spirit and Deepening Integration

Clinical hypnosis weaves beautifully before and after trauma reprocessing.

Before EMDR, hypnosis can help regulate the nervous system, making it possible for someone to even access their internal world — a necessary prerequisite for EMDR and IFS. Many clients arrive overwhelmed, anxious, or shut down. Hypnosis helps them enter a calmer, spiritually connected state, where they can begin to feel safe in their own body and mind.

It is a deeply felt modality that encourages people to soften, to feel nurtured, and to surrender — not to the therapist, but to the loving internal and external presence that surrounds them and lives within. Hypnosis can be a sacred pause from striving, efforting, and defending. It invites trust.

Many clients have shared that during the hypnotic script — especially during moments of stillness or guided nurturing — they experience the external voice (in this case, mine) as the voice of God, or a loving angel. It can be profoundly touching. Hypnosis opens a channel where the spiritual and the psychological can meet with gentleness and grace.

After trauma work, hypnosis becomes a space of integration. It allows clients to reimagine their future, anchor in their core self, and deepen the internal alignment cultivated in IFS and EMDR. It supports emotional, spiritual, and somatic healing in a unified way.

Hypnosis is spirit-focused. It’s like receiving a sound bath or a luxurious massage — soothing, immersive, and deeply restorative. It connects us to a greater sense of peace, presence, and belonging, often touching into something sacred and beyond words.

A Fluid, Human Approach to Therapy

I don’t use these modalities rigidly or in isolation. Some sessions might be more EMDR-focused, others more parts-focused, others grounded in trancework and spiritual self-connection. What matters is that we are always moving toward more truth, more freedom, and more inner peace — whatever path that takes on a given day.

Each modality brings its own texture and spiritual orientation:

  • EMDR is wisdom-focused. It’s active, like strength training — it mobilizes, strengthens, and clears.
  • IFS is compassion-focused. It’s like a long, slow nature trek — filled with discovery, awe, and inner connection.
  • Clinical Hypnosis is spirit-focused. It’s like a sound bath or a luxurious massage — soothing, grounding, and sacred.

I offer therapy as a fluid, adaptive process — always attuned to the body, the nervous system, the soul, and the moment. Healing is sacred work. When trauma has fractured the self, therapy becomes a return — to wholeness, to clarity, to love.

Whether you need to process, to soothe, to understand, or to reimagine — there is a way forward. And we will find it together.

To start this journey, contact me.

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